21 12 2008


2,002 Romantic Ideas, special moments you can share with the one you love” was the title that caught my eyes as I was checking out books at a book store last week.

The title caught my eye in a revolting way! I didn’t know there were 2,002 ways to have a special moment with your partner!! I didn’t think anyone could count that.

2,002 ideas!

Many questions came to my mind as I was checking out that title, written with flowers and hearts everywhere around it; Do they really have books for these things? Aren’t these supposed to be special moments depending on the partners who share them? Do I need a book like this one to have a special moment with my partner to be? Do we need a manual to talk us through our special moments?

(يعني نبقى اعدين كده في لحظة صفا و يروح حد فينا مطلع الكتاب للتاني و يقول له: لأ، المؤلف مقالش كدا)

How would one of the two partners feel if they discover the other is using a book like this to have a special moment with the other??!!!

I’d feel betrayed! I’d feel like my partner is having some book fantasies trying to fulfill them. I don’t mind living a moment that either of us wished to live with the other at some time, but getting an idea from a book would wipe out any emotions or sincerity.

Maybe it’s different from a girl’s point of view! Maybe they find it romantic?! Can someone (girl) answer those questions for me??




6 responses

21 12 2008

well i will tell u something
u have a point but then again let m tell u this..

if u and a girl were watching a movie..and the hero made a romantic move for the heroien u will find the girl (allah to7fa) …

u will think oh why dont i do that for instance..that doesnt consider cheating..it is considering trying to make ur partner happy 🙂

so .. it’s not cheating.. it’s just the fact that ur partner has the inititation to make u happy is enough..

kono eno byst3een b sadeeq dyh 7aga msh tosee2 leh //bel3aks .. it’s appreciated ..

at least for me !

22 12 2008

ummm well i hate to say this but i agree with cindy :p

in the i wont feel betrayed part .. its just his/her “own” way to make “you” happy .. so u gotta appreciate the fact that she/he searched bookshelves trying to make ur xperience together even better (from his/her very own point of view)

i believe that where the majority of problems come from most of the time .. is that we try to make our partners happy in the way that would make us happy .. disregarding the fact that we’re different !
on the other side .. our partners sometimes cant interpret our actions in the way we meant them .. and they get positively sure that our actions cant be out of love !

and then we all turn to the all time repeated question .. “How could i ever satisfy u?!”

i believe the answer to this kind of qs .. lies in Understanding,Tolerance, Clarity, Acceptance, Respect and Appreciation

we have to Understand the motive our partners have doing wutever he/she does .. as long as we have something going between us .. most of the times our partner is trying to make things better for us .. even when it turns out that its not helping his motive was out of love .. understanding this would change the way we react to his/her “seemingly to us” bothering actions .

We need to show Tolerance to our partners .. accepting the fact that after all they are humans and that they can make mistakes .. being tolerant we wont snap at them at the very first mistake falling in the worst mistake we can have which is “judging” them .. now that they’re getting all defensive .. itd easily turn into a lose/lose situation !

Acceptance .. relevant to being tolerant .. a part of its very essence .. when partners feel accepted .. they can be more relaxed regarding their choices .. and thats only when they can be creative .. knowing that if things went wrong for any reason they wont get “knocked out” .. they spend much more time in the comfort zone allowing them to feel much more love and having the power and energy to love back 🙂

one of the most important things that would keep human beings living in harmony .. is Respect .. respecting everything .. ur partner’s needs, insecurities, turn offs, likes & dislikes, choices even brains !
when partners have mutual respect for each other .. they’d surely have an easier job satisfying each other

Always be Clear about things that turn u off or on .. dont let things get u down everytime when u can change that fact by simply clarifying wut u have inside .. its ur right .. so declare it .. assumptions would only make things worse in times of uncertainty, both of you and ur partner have a goal .. which is making things work for the both of u .. making each other happy .. clarifying things would really help a lot doing this particular thing 🙂

and least but not last 😀
Appreciation !
always appreciate wutever ur partner does .. no matter how big or small it may be .. know that in everything he/she does .. lies a part of him/her .. so now that u can look as ur partners actions as given pieces of him/her ..
with all the feelings u have for ur partner .. ud just cherish everything he/she does .. even the smile ur given in a early winter morning .. lighting up ur day .. the tea with milk glass he/she offers u while ur getting up lazy from ur bed in a weekend .. the walk he/she would take around the block bringing you something u want .. the fact that he/she would stay awake watching you falling asleep (not aware of his/her loving eyes) .. fixing u the meal u find when ur back home from a long work day (maybe even for both of u) .. even going through book shelves with a watery eyes trying to look for ways to make ur life experience “together” a better one 🙂
its all about Appreciating the small details in everyday’s life .. and the big ones too 🙂

i believe now that i went thru those things .. its not just for “couples” to lead a happy life .. its for any two human beings dealing together looking forward to have a quality relationship !

am sure many can add up to those answers i wrote above .. and thats the greatness of human beings .. every single one has his very own way to make things happen the way he knows the best 🙂

**Sorry for the long comment ! i actually think i shall post it on the blog in response to this post .. but i will post it in here aswell .. as thats where it was first written 🙂

apparently nice post ya moody or else i wouldnt have wrote that long comment 😀

22 12 2008
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22 12 2008

I’m glad you liked the post and took the time to write the long comment 🙂 but i beg to differ 😛 (بعد إذن سيندي)

As you said, we are humans, and we are all different from one another.
While picking a method from such book he/she would pick a method they think is going to turn out to be good (still from their point of view, so nothing has changed). all it does is eliminate creativity! and also intimacy. it eliminates doing the action from deep inside and feeling it sincerely.

i appreciate the effort but I’d prefer having a simple special moment with my partner that she has planned for from beginning to end, and have the feeling that all this was done for us to share, and appreciate it as it is – even if it’s not as perfect as i wished it would be – than have her ROBOTICALLY follow tips given by another person who doesn’t know either of us.

You mentioned acceptance, think of it this way, (i don’t know if you agreed with me on the first part of my comment or not, but let’s say you did) from her (the partner’s) point, let’s say she picked a special moment that i really liked, how would she feel then? even if i didn’t know that this moment was stolen from a printed page, she knows it, she now knows she couldn’t come up with a moment of her own and wouldn’t be a partner in that moment any more, but an observer of the outcome from the side line. the moment now has become my special moment not ours.

i see that it’s better to have a special moment where we both capture its magic, joy, and exceptionality with “acceptance”, where she’d be happy for my happiness and me for hers, than being happy alone in an improvised moment.

27 05 2009

ana lsa moqtn3a b r2yy 😛

30 05 2009

u may be right after all 😉

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