60 things girls would like guys to know

24 11 2009

Of course am kidding!! did you really think I’d post a list of things girls would like guys to know?!!

this list is abstracted from a FB group and what’s written in red between brackets is only my personal opinion:

If you’re a guy who’s puzzled over girls and what they’re thinking, here’s what you should know in our opinions…

1. When you compliment us, we aren’t sure how to accept the compliment without leading you on or reject the compliment without hurting you. (we’re not always looking for a lead on, sometimes your earrings just look nice)

2. We like it when you say we’re beautiful or pretty, NOT hot or sexy! We’re not whores (usually). (Usually)

3. We like you to be specific in your compliments (don’t just say we’re beautiful, say you look beautiful because those earrings bring out your eyes, etc.) (if you want to hear a compliment like that go hand out at a gays bar!!)

4. WE HATE BEING LED ON! If you think it’s bad being led on by a girl, try being led on by a guy. (ever thought that the guy is just friendly)

5. We like it when guys are willing to have an actual relationship, not just a one-night stand. Most girls don’t like pimps or players, just guys who like ONE girl only. (and most guys don’t like nags and whores, so if u turn out to be one on the first night, you just made it a one-night stand)

6. But don’t be obsessive. Major turn-off. (you can’t live without constant 24/7 attention, make  your mind!!!)

7. Please put your ego aside in important situations. We love it when you stand up for us, but not when you stand up against us. (if you are wrong, no matter who you are to us, we’ll tell you that you are)

8. Call sometimes, just to say hi, not for a certain reason. When we see your number on caller ID, our heart always skips a beat. (i save my right not to comment, after all, i have a neck to watch for :D)

9. If we’re PMSing, listen to whatever we have to say and agree, no matter what. Don’t give advice, just give chocolate. (when you are PMSing just stay home and spare us all the trouble)

10. Don’t talk about the way other girls look. (then don’t ask us what we think about the way other girls look)

11. Actually, don’t really talk about other girls in general, unless we’re all friends. If I don’t know her, I don’t want to hear about her. (I’m not going down that road!!)

12. BE HONEST! (be ready to hear the truth!!!)

13. Don’t ONLY tell us what we want to hear. We HATE that. (it’s already hard to know what you want to hear, besides, you are never satisfied with anything else)

14. At sleepovers, if you wonder what we talk about, quit worrying. It really is only you. (at sleepovers, we only care about what you girls do, looking for some nasty actions, when you say you were just talking, we hang over it just to keep our minds off the disappointment. don’t flatter yourself and think we want to be your only subject)

15. If you catch us staring, it is most likely because we’re spacing out, not because we really stare at you. Unless we smile when you notice. Then you either look really hot, or we like you. (stare all you want, we know how your brains work and we know why you stare, and we know it’s not because you like us)

16. We love a guy who will cook for us. (best chefs are male, yet they don’t cook at their homes)

17. We like it when you hold us when we’re crying. It’s good to feel loved and safe. (unfortunately we don’t always hold you to make you feel safe, sometimes it’s just to hold you – sorry about that but some of us are a** holes)

18. If you’re ever unsure about something, just go for it. Trust us, we’ll let you know if you made a mistake. (if you want something done in a curtain way then do it your self. if you ask us to do it then just sit down and watch. we’re always sure we can do it – what ever it is – we’re only unsure about what would actually satisfy you)

19. If you like us, ask us out!!!! We hate waiting.
HATE IT. (so you can play hard to get and then we would have to wait?! no way)

20. We CANNOT read minds. The one thing all girls will say is that we have no idea what you are thinking, no matter how confident we seem. (same here! so make it easier for all of us and say it)

21. Don’t go to our friends to talk about us. Come straight to us. ( we may go to your friends only about the things you don’t want to hear)

22. If a girl’s BFF asks you if you like that girl, then she likes you. Say you want to talk to the girl about it, then actually talk to her. (the oldest game in the book)

23. Don’t be a player. We hate that. (yeah, we hate it too)

24. Don’t tell us you love us unless you are positive you mean it. If we don’t say it back, it’s just that we really want to mean it when we say it. Don’t say it right away, then it shows lack of commitment. (and if we don’t say it then we’re just players :@)

25. We like our hands to be held and our waists to be touched. (and we’re happy to do it :D)

26. Waist, not butt. Hands, not boobs. Held, not fondled. (depends on #2)

27. Try to look nice as much as possible. Not dressed up, but if you look like you just rolled out of bed, it can be a turn-off. (if you won’t dress like the victoria’s secret girls, don’t expect us to act like soap opera guys)

28. WE LOVE WHEN YOU SMELL GOOD! Wear cologne! (but not too much!!!!! We don’t want to choke on your smell when you pass us in the hallway!) (truth to be said, some guys do smell)

29. We like you to kiss our hand and cheeks and forehead (esp. forehead!!) (we like you to kiss our lips, hands, and others)

30. We like it when you’re tender, but don’t lose your masculinity. (that’s what your girl friends are for)

31. Do chivalrous things when we least expect it (ex. holding doors for us). (personally i do that, and when i miss it once for a reason, not because i intend not to do it, i have it in my face – sorry baby- )

32. Be a guy! We like sensitivity, but we don’t want another girlfriend. We might mistake you for being gay. Seriously. (then don’t ask for #30, seriously, make your mind)

33. As surprising as it may be, while guys might actually look at personality, the first thing girls look at tends to be looks. We’re not going to see you and think, ‘I wonder what his personality is like!’. Terrible, but true. (terrible, shallow, and true!)

34. Be confident, but not piggish. You’re not all that, but we don’t want you to be self-conscious. (I’ll give you that)

35. We like to see you get hurt. If you get hurt, don’t feel afraid to show that your in pain. It’s kind of cute (in moderation). (it’s not that we don’t want to show you we are in pain, it’s that we don’t like to show pain at all)

36. Be our knight in shining armor. Treat us like a princess, but be the decision maker in the relationship. (then get ready to comply to our decisions and don’t argue)

37. We like it when you ask us what we’re ok with physically, but don’t talk about it all the time. (all i could think of is X-rated)

38. We LOVE it when you get nervous around us. It’s adorable! Don’t think you have to be Mr. Cool Guy all the time.

39. Don’t play hard to get. (who?!)

40. If you don’t call us, then we will spend hours thinking about why you never called, and we will waste a lot of time thinking about it, eventually coming to the conclusion that we don’t like you anymore. (sometimes we are just busy, we’re sorry we don’t have time to waste waiting for a phone call)

41. We lost interest quickly if you lead us on but never take action. (again, we might be just friendly, or interested in your friend)

42. We might seem to flirt a lot, but a girl always thinks about the one guy she really likes right before she falls asleep. (we can’t control our dreams, so don’t ask us to dream of you. if girls can do that then i envy you)

43. When a girl likes a guy, she subconsciously gives him a song that makes her think of him every time she hears it. (we don’t like some music genres, don’t make us hear it or we’ll hate you as much as we hate the song)

44. If guys do the same as girls do in #43, tell what song reminds you of her. (we don’t, or at least it’s not one song)

45. In a conversation, LOOK AT HER FACE . (X-rated again)

(#46 was not included because obviously girls can’t count)

47. Randomly compliment girls in conversations. If you’re talking about sports, be like “Oh, by the way, that shirt really made your eyes look green today.” (again, if you want to hear something like that, go to a gays club)

48. Ask us about how we’re doing once in a while, and at least pretend to be interested. (we ask what’s wrong and you say “nothing” we believe you and we don’t have a reason to doubt your answer, so don’t expect us to ask again or push for another answer coz we have no reason to)

49. If we’re upset and we’re crying, just be there, don’t try to give us advice, psychoanalyze us, or pester us. Just give us a hug and let us know you’re there. (we are natural problem solvers, if you want a crying shoulder go to your girlfriends)

50. If we’re not talking to you, we secretly want you to talk to us first. (“secretly” only applies in the world of espionage, we don’t have a sixth sense and sometime we don’t have something to talk about)

51. Play with our hair without being like a gay hairstylist.

52. Always IM us first. We don’t want to IM you first, and if we have to, we will automatically think that you don’t like us, wonder why you didn’t IM us, and feel desperate. (IM is not as efficient as a phone call, and generally IM is a culture we don’t know)

53. We get really happy when you show any sign of interest. Don’t just do it and then never do it again. (you forget fast and allot, we don’t like to repeat ourselves and when we are done with something, it’s done)

54. Keep up the conversation on IM and phones and in person! Don’t be awkward. (news flash!! we have a part of our brains called the “NOTHING BOX” sometimes we just  want to be quiet and have nothing to say)

55. We will always feel bad if we don’t like you back. Not all girls are bitches, no matter what you may think. We hate to reject you.
^^^^ok, so some girls are bitches and they like rejecting boys, but the people who wrote this group are not. better? (most of us don’t care if you don’t like us back, we are just taking a shot, and if we look sad when you turn us down we are just playing for your sympathy or the sympathy of your girl friends)

56. If we say “Let’s just be friends”, we really mean it. Don’t keep trying to pursue us, and don’t say ok and then ignore us. That’s just mean. (we will ignore you coz if we’re in for something and we don’t get we move on)

57. It’s adorable when a best guy friend who a girl has thought about liking confesses he likes her. (i know that fact from a personal experience, and it works both ways btw)

58. Girls love it when relationships are old fashioned and romantic. Always ask permission. (we don’t like the pressure)

59. If a girl blushes when you talk to her, she either likes you or she’s embarrassed by what you’re saying. (in both situations girls should say something)

60. Every time you smile at us, it may mean only a little to you, but it means the world to us. Don’t take the little things for granted.

the previous 60 points are taken from a FB group as mentioned before and the comments are from my personal point of view the way i thought of them the first time i read those points. i should say that this doesn’t apply to all girls, some of them are smart, wise and understanding.

although this post might get me in to personal trouble with my girlfriend, but I’m sure she’s one of those wise girls i mentioned lately. i just want to say that i love her, but still if i don’t turn up with a post or a comment in a week feel free to get worried and look for my grave stone 😀





Confessions of an Ex-Feminist

18 11 2009

To Be a Woman

By Lamya Sadeq

Business Management & Self Development – Egypt

– Am I a woman?
– No, I am not questioning my gender.

– What I mean is…

Do I think of myself in that sense? Do I use that word, proudly, when referring to – or even thinking of myself?

Growing up, I was your regular tomboy. I did not play girl games, and I did not own dolls either. I did not wear dresses unless I was dragged to a wedding or a family function. I did not like to let my hair grow long.

Come to think of it, I did not have many girl friends all the way through college.

I did not wear makeup. Umm … I did not own makeup was more like it. I viewed the attempts of some girls to be understanding, cute, feminine, compassionate, and my best-friends to be a true testament to the shallowness of women. I used to pride myself on the fact that I talk like guys, think like they do, and even shop like they do (Go to the mall – Enter only one store – Buy what I need – Get out in less than 30 minutes)

However, as fate would have it, I grew out of it, because I learnt to embrace who I am. It was very strange being aware of the fact that I am now proud to be a woman. Actually I am thankful to be a woman. Wait… I am thrilled to be a woman.

I learnt that being a woman does not mean that I have to talk too much, wear makeup, alienate myself from my beliefs and causes or ‘Oooh’ and ‘Ahh’ over every passing baby (I mean, really… Leave the babies and their mothers alone for God’s sake!!!!)

Transformation

I began to realize that I was force-fed an idea of what makes a woman. I realize now, sadly, that pop-culture has had a huge impact on shaping my ideals and notions on many gender-related concepts. I never thought that I would be a poster-image of the magnitude of damage pop-culture (stereotypical, negative, untrue, agenda-based and sexist) can have on one’s life.

I was blown away by the recognition that I let myself be manipulated into becoming ashamed of who I was. I kid you not!!!!! I was furious and shocked at how much I have missed out on.

So, I did what I thought was the only right thing to do in light of the circumstances; I went back to my most trusted reference, my belief system.

– What do I know of how Allah (SWT) views women?

– How did Allah (SWT) refer to us in the Qur’an?

– Were we viewed as shallow beings?

– Were we viewed as objects of enjoyment?

– Were we viewed merely as mothers or wives?

Answers to those questions have filled volumes of books. I will not attempt to further educate myself or you (who I am sure are all more knowledgeable than yours truly) on the empowerment of women in Islam.

"I’ve been a woman for a little over 50 years and I have gotten over my initial astonishment. As for conducting an orchestra, that’s a job where I don’t think sex (gender) plays much part." Nadia Boulanger, conductor.

"I have seen too much not to know that the impression of a woman may be more valuable than the conclusion of an analytical reasoner." Sir, Arthur Conan Doyle, The Adventures of Sherlock Holmes

{O mankind, We have created you a male and female, and appointed you races and tribes, that you may know one another} (Sura al-Hujurat 49: 13)


Lamya Sadeq is a qualified expert in the field of international business development, and information systems. As well as holding a Masters in Training and Development, Lamya Sadeq runs courses and workshops in aspects of Islamic self development and outreach, as well as workshops in business development.

For the original article click here





Friends

17 09 2009


Rembrandts

I’ll Be There For You Lyrics

So no one told you life was gonna be this way

Your jobs a joke, you’re broke, your love life’s D.O.A.

It’s like you’re always stuck in second gear

And it hasn’t been your day, your week, your month,

or even your year

but..


I’ll be there for you

When the rain starts to pour

I’ll be there for you

Like I’ve been there before

I’ll be there for you

‘Cuz you’re there for me too…


You’re still in bed at ten

And work began at eight

You’ve burned your breakfast

So far… things are goin’ great


Your mother warned you there’d be days like these

Oh but she didn’t tell you when the world has brought

You down to your knees that…


I’ll be there for you

When the rain starts to pour

I’ll be there for you

Like I’ve been there before

I’ll be there for you

‘Cuz you’re there for me too…


No one could ever know me

No one could ever see me

Seems you’re the only one who knows

What it’s like to be me

Someone to face the day with

Make it through all the rest with

Someone I’ll always laugh with

Even at my worst I’m best with you, yeah


It’s like you’re always stuck in second gear

And it hasn’t been your day, your week, your month,

or even your year…


I’ll be there for you

When the rain starts to pour

I’ll be there for you

Like I’ve been there before

I’ll be there for you

‘Cuz you’re there for me too…


I’ll be there for you

I’ll be there for you

I’ll be there for you

‘Cuz you’re there for me too…

To all my good friends: Cinderella, Hassan, Rana, Ola, Ezz, Mohsen, Salem 🙂





Nada bet7eb Mahmoud

31 05 2009

I was standing at the Bon Appetite counter ordering lunch at El-Ahly Club when those words hit my ears stronger than a thunder bolt, so loud and clear: “la2et el nas kollaha 3arfa en Nada bet7eb Mohmoud” (i found out that every body knows that Nada loves Mahmoud). I was taken with surprise for a while, then looked at the speaker. She was about 14 years old, a little kid girl with her kid girl friend. Suddenly the picture of that lame Vodafone commercial jumped in front of my eyes: Bibo far2a3 Gigy (Bibo blew up with Gigy)!! 😀

Then i felt sooooo old! what has happened to the world? when did kids that age start talking about love? what happened to the kids of the new generation? talking about love, fights, boob jobs done by celebrities, Noor and Mohannad, star academy, play station, Esam El 7adary and how he’s not as cute as C. Ronaldo 😀

I’m not saying my whole generation spent their time reading Encyclopedias or Watching Discovery, but i don’t remember us having that amount of lameness, empty headedness, or shallowness in our conversations.

I guess that was before Pokémon’s invaded the west (yes, west! it came from Asia, so we are the west of that) then it all went wrong. Kids started fighting over rare cards, and wrong moves (all they had to do was flash a card, I have no idea how could that go wrong). then it was made tokens in Chipsy packs, then kids started buying them for the tokens and throw the rest of the pack away. Then came cable TV, and came MTV’s role, introducing us to all kinds of video clips and singing mania, Star academy, Nancy Agram, and Haifaa Wahby.

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What happened to Ragol el Mosta7il (man of the impossible) and 3arosty (no direct translation, it’s a clue guess game). What happened to those Muppets on TV, although they were dumb but taught the kids a lesson or two. Where did Wanis and Maysa go, bringing up a generation of good mothers and fathers? When did we stop going to sports clubs to play sports and go for picking up girls instead?

Somebody tell me, when did it all go wrong?





Corruption

26 05 2009

There was a bulletin at college that announced a writing competition. Write an article about corruption in any of its form and any of its ways. It was too late for me to submit my article on time so I decided to write my article  here and get valued by you; my friends whose opinion is the opinion that really matters to me 🙂 here we go:

The first thing that most probably comes to mind when we hear the word corruption is governmental corruption, administrative corruption, or managerial corruption, but to what extent any type of those corruptions has become and to what extent does it affect our daily life, economy, ethics, and life standard?

The influence extent I’m talking about is not on the level of an organization or an institute, but the whole country. You know which country I’m talking about, our nation of Nabihalia 😉

Nabihalia has been under the control of the same ruler system for the past three decades. Same ruler, same ministers, and same bureaucratic system. Normally, as all human nature works, when you know a person or a group of people for a long time of your life or your whole life, you treat them as members of your family – let’s call those people “The Big Ones”- . Some times you feel like you are starting to act like them, even look like them.

People start to feel that public property is “The Big Ones” own property, and they posses their hatred towards those “Big Ones” on their personal properties; they tear the seats on their busses, they throw the garbage in the streets of their cities, and they pollute their air.

It’s the feeling of hatred that a person possesses on a level that makes him too blind to realize that he is only harming himself and his own property.

When did it go wrong? When did it go wrong! I vaguely remember Nabihalia ten years ago, we didn’t notice such hatred in the streets, we didn’t notice such inconsideration from a regular citizen towards his fellow citizen, we didn’t notice such violence in behavior.

When did we start bumping into each other like eye folded bulls without glancing back as a sign of apology? When did we start shooting each other in the streets with live bullets for a parking space? When did we start walking in the middle of the streets without any consideration to traffic in the narrowest streets ever? When did we start, as government employees, abusing our fellow citizens who have fallen under the cloud of bureaucracy and had to be driven to our desks to finish some urgent business, when did we learn and where did we get the right to humiliate them and abuse our authority over them? And most amazingly is where did we get the negativity to take such treatment with acceptance and indulgence?

Don’t try and through this on the government! It’s all government! When college turns into a police barrack, when all college activities are banned unless turned into cheap commercial product,  when subsidy is drawn from human development centers and given to cigarette manufacturers and foreign investors, when the lowest rank in the police drives human beings like a cattle of sheep to what ever pleases him, when …

It’s all Government!

How?

well, it’s obvious…

I’m out of words. maybe this video can explain a little:

And this is Nabihalia’s National anthem

this was the article, forget all the crap about the competition, this is only good for toilet paper 😀

hope you like it 😉





“Gold itself has no value”

6 02 2009

I was reading Paulo Coelho’s “the Devil and Miss Prym” when I came across these lines:

“ ‘At school, we were all told the famous legend of King Midas, who met a god who offered to grant him anything he wished for. Midas was already very rich, but he wanted more money, and he asked to have the power to turn everything he touched into gold. ‘Let me remind you what happened: first, Midas transformed his furniture, his palace and everything around him into gold. He worked away for a whole morning, and soon had a golden garden, golden trees and golden staircases. At noon, he felt hungry and wanted to eat. But as soon as he touched the succulent leg of lamb that his servants had prepared, that too was turned into gold. He raised a glass of wine to his lips, and it was instantly turned into gold. In despair, he ran to his wife to ask her to help him, for he was beginning to understand his mistake, but as soon as he touched her arm, she turned into a golden statue. ‘The servants fled the palace, terrified that the same thing would happen to them. In less than a week, Midas had died of hunger and thirst, surrounded by gold on all sides.’ “

What is the true value of gold?

What does Gold really count for when it exists alone in an empty world?

Is it gold and owning it is what gives us our value in this world? not only gold, but also money; they are only things that complete us, fulfilling our needs, no need to save it with large amounts, giving so much of sweat and effort just to brag about owning a lot of it.

We live life once, and if we don’t enjoy every moment of it, then we shouldn’t deserve to live. I’m not suggesting spending money to the last pound to waste, but we also shouldn’t put it away preventing ourselves from the joys of life.

A friend of mine bought a professional camera a month ago. He wanted to buy it for years. It cost him a lot. But it is his hobby, his joy, his dream. Now, (ma sha2 Allah) he’s taking the most amazing pictures with it.

I remember when he was still deciding whether to buy it or not, we had this discussion about spending the money on such hobby or saving the money for something more important. Now, I’m sure he hasn’t regretted it for once; enjoying the pleasure of practicing his hobby.

Try to imagine King Midas; try to imagine his world; shining, glistening, and radiant. But he’s lonely, living between all this Gold, owning it. But with no one to share it with, no one to enjoy it with.

صحيح، كما قال الشاعر، جنة من غير ناس ما تنداس.

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احسبها صح … تعيشها صح

4 02 2009

I received this e-mail, it’s about an issue that I guess is bothering some of you as it is bothering me, so I decided to share it with you.

I don’t know who originally wrote it, but this is how i recieved it:

مفيش حاجة واجعه قلبى ومسببالى انتفاخات زى الاعلان الغريب اللى بيطاردنى فى شوارع المحروسة بالاضافة للتلفزيون واللى شعارة تحسبها صح …. تعيشها صح … مستفزززززز جدا …. واحد بيوفر في استهلاك المياه (إللي هي المَيّه يعني!) وهو ده إللي خلاّه يدَخّل ابنه أحسن مدارس!!!! يا سلااااااام!! طب إيه العلاقه؟؟؟!! …. وواحد تاني بيوفر فى استهلاك الكهربا واللقطة اللى بعدها المحروس بيجرى ورا عياله فى الشاليه بتاعه فى بورتو السخنة !!! وبعدين رمش العين وفرت من مصروفها وجابت لاب توب !!! مصروف إيه فى ليلتكم الزرقا على دماغكم إللى بيجيب لاب توب ده؟!!! وطبعا فى الاخر الجملة الاكثر استفزاززززززززز فى المجرة الارضية واللة متعديش حتى على الهنود

( على فكرة احلى تحية للهنود بتوع النووى )

…. احسبها صح … تعيشها صح ….

وعليه…… خدوا عندكم بقا…. هِيّا جت عليّا انا يعنى ؟؟؟!! ….

توتى وفر فى فلوس المخدرات بتاعته وجاب عربية هامر جديده !!
تحسبها صح …. تعيشها صح

نوسة وفرت من فلوس الديسكو وسافرت 3 شهور فرنسا الصيف اللى فات وفى الغالب مش راجعه !!
تحسبها صح …. تعيشها صح

سهير بتشرب علبة سجاير واحدة بس بدل اتنين وبفلوسها حجزت شهر فى الفورسيييييزووون فى الرويال سويت!
تحسبها صح …. تعيشها صح

حنكش قلِّب باقية فلوس العيش اللى مامته كانت بتديهالو وبيهم دفع مصاريف الجامعة الامريكية !!
تحسبها صح …. تعيشها صح

عم حسين بواب العمارة وفر من التيبس اللى بياخدوا من السكان واشترى رونالدينهو بتاع البرازيل !!
تحسبها صح …. تعيشها صح

عادل صاحب شركة استيراد خصم من كل الموظفين 10 ايام وبيهم جاب خاتم سوليتير للفيونكه بتاعته !!
تحسبها صح …. تعيشها صح

صبحى وفر فى أكل الجبنة الروووومى وجاب فيلا فى التجمع الخامس بالبسين وجاب عوامة وزة كمان !!
تحسبها صح …. تعيشها صح

طأطأ بطل يجيب الكارت ابو 25 جنية وبيجيب الكارت ابو 10 جنية وبالفرق دفع المهر والشبكة وعمل فرحه فى لندن وبيقضى شهر العسل فى الكاريبى !!
تحسبها صح …. تعيشها صح

نداء الى اصحاب القلوب الرحيمة وجمعيات الرفق بالانسان والحيوان…. اوقفوا الاعلان ده

أو وفرولنا أدوية مكافحة الحمووووووضة
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