I am Exceptional

27 01 2010

Please watch the film first:

 

El moshkela akid mesh fel nas, el moshkela akid fik (the problem is not with the people, the problem has got to be with me). If you believe that then you better kill your self and get done with it!

I was watching an independent film at a culture center when those words were said. The film was called "Unclaimed" or (lam yostadal 3la 3enwan). It’s about a lonely middle aged man who had no friends and lived alone. He worked in a government office where had no friendly colleagues either and even people doing their affairs in the office he worked in didn’t go to his desk but headed to his colleagues. Nobody asked about him, cared how he was doing, called him, or even wrote to him. He felt depressed and started wondering for the reason.

He even started writing him self letters and mailing them to his address. The letters were returned to his work as Unclaimed. The more the letters the more the Unclaimed the more the depression. He decided to call himself and leave a message on the answering machine that always told him that he had no new messages but the number was out of service! He headed to his own street and building asking the people around for himself, but "nobody lives here with this name" or "never heard of him" came the answers.

That’s when he thought "the problem is not with the people, the problem had to be me" you might as well throw your self off the balcony! I always believed that there’s a critical point of return where a person shouldn’t let him self reach. Just before that point one should have a pause, a moment of silence then a blast for something crazy, something new, something cheerful that would make me feel there’s still hope. i should be myself, normal, my own normal, the normal that’s normal for me, away from stereotypes and standardizm. Hell no!

The problem is not with me. I cope with people the way they are and they should accept me the way i am and have the tolerance to live with me as i with them. But if you reach the point where you despise yourself and your life you will try to change, then you will try to change. The uncomfortable zone! You can’t live as other people just because the majority are like that. It’s not comfortable. You were not brought up like that, and you can’t change in days what was planted for years. You can’t go back either, because once you leave it in despise it despises you too. Rejects you when ever you come near it, and that’s where you feel lost in between.

The search for the soul.

Sit with yourself. Talk to her. Respect her, she deserves that, and she will respect you in return.

Know where you are. You can even write a list of demands. Give yourself time to find itself.

Now go out and start shopping. Shop for you list. Search for what you want and don’t let go till you find it. Go to new places where nobody "normal" would go that’s where you will find your match.

I AM HAPPY TO BE EXCEPTIONAL, HOW ARE YOU?





60 things girls would like guys to know

24 11 2009

Of course am kidding!! did you really think I’d post a list of things girls would like guys to know?!!

this list is abstracted from a FB group and what’s written in red between brackets is only my personal opinion:

If you’re a guy who’s puzzled over girls and what they’re thinking, here’s what you should know in our opinions…

1. When you compliment us, we aren’t sure how to accept the compliment without leading you on or reject the compliment without hurting you. (we’re not always looking for a lead on, sometimes your earrings just look nice)

2. We like it when you say we’re beautiful or pretty, NOT hot or sexy! We’re not whores (usually). (Usually)

3. We like you to be specific in your compliments (don’t just say we’re beautiful, say you look beautiful because those earrings bring out your eyes, etc.) (if you want to hear a compliment like that go hand out at a gays bar!!)

4. WE HATE BEING LED ON! If you think it’s bad being led on by a girl, try being led on by a guy. (ever thought that the guy is just friendly)

5. We like it when guys are willing to have an actual relationship, not just a one-night stand. Most girls don’t like pimps or players, just guys who like ONE girl only. (and most guys don’t like nags and whores, so if u turn out to be one on the first night, you just made it a one-night stand)

6. But don’t be obsessive. Major turn-off. (you can’t live without constant 24/7 attention, make  your mind!!!)

7. Please put your ego aside in important situations. We love it when you stand up for us, but not when you stand up against us. (if you are wrong, no matter who you are to us, we’ll tell you that you are)

8. Call sometimes, just to say hi, not for a certain reason. When we see your number on caller ID, our heart always skips a beat. (i save my right not to comment, after all, i have a neck to watch for :D)

9. If we’re PMSing, listen to whatever we have to say and agree, no matter what. Don’t give advice, just give chocolate. (when you are PMSing just stay home and spare us all the trouble)

10. Don’t talk about the way other girls look. (then don’t ask us what we think about the way other girls look)

11. Actually, don’t really talk about other girls in general, unless we’re all friends. If I don’t know her, I don’t want to hear about her. (I’m not going down that road!!)

12. BE HONEST! (be ready to hear the truth!!!)

13. Don’t ONLY tell us what we want to hear. We HATE that. (it’s already hard to know what you want to hear, besides, you are never satisfied with anything else)

14. At sleepovers, if you wonder what we talk about, quit worrying. It really is only you. (at sleepovers, we only care about what you girls do, looking for some nasty actions, when you say you were just talking, we hang over it just to keep our minds off the disappointment. don’t flatter yourself and think we want to be your only subject)

15. If you catch us staring, it is most likely because we’re spacing out, not because we really stare at you. Unless we smile when you notice. Then you either look really hot, or we like you. (stare all you want, we know how your brains work and we know why you stare, and we know it’s not because you like us)

16. We love a guy who will cook for us. (best chefs are male, yet they don’t cook at their homes)

17. We like it when you hold us when we’re crying. It’s good to feel loved and safe. (unfortunately we don’t always hold you to make you feel safe, sometimes it’s just to hold you – sorry about that but some of us are a** holes)

18. If you’re ever unsure about something, just go for it. Trust us, we’ll let you know if you made a mistake. (if you want something done in a curtain way then do it your self. if you ask us to do it then just sit down and watch. we’re always sure we can do it – what ever it is – we’re only unsure about what would actually satisfy you)

19. If you like us, ask us out!!!! We hate waiting.
HATE IT. (so you can play hard to get and then we would have to wait?! no way)

20. We CANNOT read minds. The one thing all girls will say is that we have no idea what you are thinking, no matter how confident we seem. (same here! so make it easier for all of us and say it)

21. Don’t go to our friends to talk about us. Come straight to us. ( we may go to your friends only about the things you don’t want to hear)

22. If a girl’s BFF asks you if you like that girl, then she likes you. Say you want to talk to the girl about it, then actually talk to her. (the oldest game in the book)

23. Don’t be a player. We hate that. (yeah, we hate it too)

24. Don’t tell us you love us unless you are positive you mean it. If we don’t say it back, it’s just that we really want to mean it when we say it. Don’t say it right away, then it shows lack of commitment. (and if we don’t say it then we’re just players :@)

25. We like our hands to be held and our waists to be touched. (and we’re happy to do it :D)

26. Waist, not butt. Hands, not boobs. Held, not fondled. (depends on #2)

27. Try to look nice as much as possible. Not dressed up, but if you look like you just rolled out of bed, it can be a turn-off. (if you won’t dress like the victoria’s secret girls, don’t expect us to act like soap opera guys)

28. WE LOVE WHEN YOU SMELL GOOD! Wear cologne! (but not too much!!!!! We don’t want to choke on your smell when you pass us in the hallway!) (truth to be said, some guys do smell)

29. We like you to kiss our hand and cheeks and forehead (esp. forehead!!) (we like you to kiss our lips, hands, and others)

30. We like it when you’re tender, but don’t lose your masculinity. (that’s what your girl friends are for)

31. Do chivalrous things when we least expect it (ex. holding doors for us). (personally i do that, and when i miss it once for a reason, not because i intend not to do it, i have it in my face – sorry baby- )

32. Be a guy! We like sensitivity, but we don’t want another girlfriend. We might mistake you for being gay. Seriously. (then don’t ask for #30, seriously, make your mind)

33. As surprising as it may be, while guys might actually look at personality, the first thing girls look at tends to be looks. We’re not going to see you and think, ‘I wonder what his personality is like!’. Terrible, but true. (terrible, shallow, and true!)

34. Be confident, but not piggish. You’re not all that, but we don’t want you to be self-conscious. (I’ll give you that)

35. We like to see you get hurt. If you get hurt, don’t feel afraid to show that your in pain. It’s kind of cute (in moderation). (it’s not that we don’t want to show you we are in pain, it’s that we don’t like to show pain at all)

36. Be our knight in shining armor. Treat us like a princess, but be the decision maker in the relationship. (then get ready to comply to our decisions and don’t argue)

37. We like it when you ask us what we’re ok with physically, but don’t talk about it all the time. (all i could think of is X-rated)

38. We LOVE it when you get nervous around us. It’s adorable! Don’t think you have to be Mr. Cool Guy all the time.

39. Don’t play hard to get. (who?!)

40. If you don’t call us, then we will spend hours thinking about why you never called, and we will waste a lot of time thinking about it, eventually coming to the conclusion that we don’t like you anymore. (sometimes we are just busy, we’re sorry we don’t have time to waste waiting for a phone call)

41. We lost interest quickly if you lead us on but never take action. (again, we might be just friendly, or interested in your friend)

42. We might seem to flirt a lot, but a girl always thinks about the one guy she really likes right before she falls asleep. (we can’t control our dreams, so don’t ask us to dream of you. if girls can do that then i envy you)

43. When a girl likes a guy, she subconsciously gives him a song that makes her think of him every time she hears it. (we don’t like some music genres, don’t make us hear it or we’ll hate you as much as we hate the song)

44. If guys do the same as girls do in #43, tell what song reminds you of her. (we don’t, or at least it’s not one song)

45. In a conversation, LOOK AT HER FACE . (X-rated again)

(#46 was not included because obviously girls can’t count)

47. Randomly compliment girls in conversations. If you’re talking about sports, be like “Oh, by the way, that shirt really made your eyes look green today.” (again, if you want to hear something like that, go to a gays club)

48. Ask us about how we’re doing once in a while, and at least pretend to be interested. (we ask what’s wrong and you say “nothing” we believe you and we don’t have a reason to doubt your answer, so don’t expect us to ask again or push for another answer coz we have no reason to)

49. If we’re upset and we’re crying, just be there, don’t try to give us advice, psychoanalyze us, or pester us. Just give us a hug and let us know you’re there. (we are natural problem solvers, if you want a crying shoulder go to your girlfriends)

50. If we’re not talking to you, we secretly want you to talk to us first. (“secretly” only applies in the world of espionage, we don’t have a sixth sense and sometime we don’t have something to talk about)

51. Play with our hair without being like a gay hairstylist.

52. Always IM us first. We don’t want to IM you first, and if we have to, we will automatically think that you don’t like us, wonder why you didn’t IM us, and feel desperate. (IM is not as efficient as a phone call, and generally IM is a culture we don’t know)

53. We get really happy when you show any sign of interest. Don’t just do it and then never do it again. (you forget fast and allot, we don’t like to repeat ourselves and when we are done with something, it’s done)

54. Keep up the conversation on IM and phones and in person! Don’t be awkward. (news flash!! we have a part of our brains called the “NOTHING BOX” sometimes we just  want to be quiet and have nothing to say)

55. We will always feel bad if we don’t like you back. Not all girls are bitches, no matter what you may think. We hate to reject you.
^^^^ok, so some girls are bitches and they like rejecting boys, but the people who wrote this group are not. better? (most of us don’t care if you don’t like us back, we are just taking a shot, and if we look sad when you turn us down we are just playing for your sympathy or the sympathy of your girl friends)

56. If we say “Let’s just be friends”, we really mean it. Don’t keep trying to pursue us, and don’t say ok and then ignore us. That’s just mean. (we will ignore you coz if we’re in for something and we don’t get we move on)

57. It’s adorable when a best guy friend who a girl has thought about liking confesses he likes her. (i know that fact from a personal experience, and it works both ways btw)

58. Girls love it when relationships are old fashioned and romantic. Always ask permission. (we don’t like the pressure)

59. If a girl blushes when you talk to her, she either likes you or she’s embarrassed by what you’re saying. (in both situations girls should say something)

60. Every time you smile at us, it may mean only a little to you, but it means the world to us. Don’t take the little things for granted.

the previous 60 points are taken from a FB group as mentioned before and the comments are from my personal point of view the way i thought of them the first time i read those points. i should say that this doesn’t apply to all girls, some of them are smart, wise and understanding.

although this post might get me in to personal trouble with my girlfriend, but I’m sure she’s one of those wise girls i mentioned lately. i just want to say that i love her, but still if i don’t turn up with a post or a comment in a week feel free to get worried and look for my grave stone 😀